Following - it's not so bad

I had another group of couples with intelligent women to talk into following.
Just for the 2 minutes of the song - then we'll talk.
Just while you're dancing - not the rest of your life.
And if he goes off the music, usually it's because he goes too fast, so if you resist speeding up, you're not getting ahead of him.
Still - it's not all that easy either. But it's a good trick to learn.